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Susan Bratton

Podcast # 38 - How to Heal Sexual Trauma | Susan Bratton

The Science of Self-Healing Hosted by Dr. Sharon Stills With Special Guest
Susan Bratton

About Susan Bratton

“Intimacy Expert to Millions💋” — Susan Bratton is a champion and advocate for all who desire passionate relationships. 


Flashes of brilliance pop like paparazzi as Susan rolls out one relationship epiphany after another. When she describes how love and intimacy can transcend what media portrays, you see how you can have way more intimacy and pleasure than you've been getting.


A self-proclaimed "Orgasmanaut..." Susan travels to the outer reaches of human orgasmic potential to bring back the map to the territory of pleasure and connection. Imagine that you are capable of way more sexual satisfaction!


She's a "Sexual Biohacker..." Recommending regenerative therapies that keep your libido and desire thrumming with life force because sex is good for you.


Moreover, Susan's superpower is courage. She takes a lionhearted stand for your human right to pleasurable connection... And the willingness to get nerdy on anatomy, detailed about sex skills, and science-driven on sex drive to achieve this outcome for everyone whose lives she touches.


Her straight-talking, fearless approach is rooted in her personal experience of watching her sex life wither while she and her husband pursued dynamic careers. When their relationship hit a crisis point, the couple made a fierce commitment to do whatever it took to keep their family together and revive her drive. They brought their marriage-saving experiences to the world as online programs. 


Today, Susan and Tim have the kind of dream relationship most people long since stopped believing is even possible—until they discover Susan's teachings.


"Seeing how you two interact gives me hope that a passionate relationship IS possible for me too."


A lifelong entrepreneur, Susan is CEO of two companies. The 20, founded in 2019, is a supplement company specializing in libido support for sexual vitality. Based on the 80/20 rule, which states that 80% of your results are due to 20% of your efforts—if only you know what 20% to choose. The 20's blood flow supplement, libido vitamins, and sexual energy bars⸺FLOW and DESIRE⸺make the "what to choose" dilemma a no-brainer by providing the just-right balance of vitamins and botanicals to deliver noticeable results.


Through Personal Life Media, founded in 2006, Susan has authored and published 34 books and programs, including Relationship Magic, Revive Her Drive, The Steamy Sex Ed®️ Video Collection, and her Amazon #1 International Bestseller, Sexual Soulmates: The Six Essentials for Connected Sex. Over 1,250,000 copies of her books have been enjoyed by lovers worldwide.


Susan is currently an official company spokesperson for both The Anti-Aging Group, LLC's GAINSWave®️ protocol, and The Dr. Joel Kaplan Inc. brand of vacuum erection devices. Her book, Pump Guide, has helped over 30,000 men regain their sexual performance in midlife and beyond.


Susan is Chair Emeritus of the ad:tech conferences; she was both CMO and a member of the Board of Directors for an Anthony Robbins technology start-up and serves on numerous corporate boards. The Business Journal honored Susan as a "Silicon Valley Woman of Influence" and Ad Age magazine as a "Top 10 Internet Pioneer." dmg World Media bestowed her the Lifetime Industry Achievement Award. She won the coveted DEMOGod award at DEMO and has been part of companies' start-up teams acquired by AOL and Microsoft. She is co-founder of the Association for Downloadable Media and the Internet Advertising Bureau. Perpetually revenue-driven, Susan has a Bachelor of Science in Business Administration with post-graduate work at Stanford University.


A frequent and riveting speaker from the stage, on television, on podcasts, summits, in online video, and through her thousands of magazine and website articles, Susan invites lovers to embrace giving and receiving pleasure as a vital element of being alive.


Susan believes that shame-free, frequent sexual pleasure is every man and woman's birthright.


"After 30 years of marriage, I know from experience that deep, passionate intimacy with my partner is priceless: a priority that tops my list of must-haves alongside good health and the love of family and friends. I have made it my mission to aid anyone who wants the kind of lovemaking that improves with age."


She and her husband split their time between their California homes on Mt. Tamalpais in Mill Valley and their cozy beach house in Encinitas, with occasional trips to far-off lands to visit their globe-trotting daughter.

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Healing can come through pleasure!
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Episode Highlights with Susan Bratton

  • Sexual healing is paramount to complete healing from trauma

  • Sexual trauma is highly prevalent, and defined as when someone forces another person to engage in a sexual act of any kind which they are not comfortable doing.  Often is perpetrated by a known and trusted person in the family, or in the inner circle

    • Societal trauma includes how sex is portrayed in pop culture, media and movies, as well as pornography.  96% of pornography, when analyzed, was defined as degrading to women.

    • Societal trauma includes medical trauma in gynecological offices, as well as religious trauma including shame and guilt, and trauma by way of lack of information about sexual education

    • Partner trauma, and generational trauma also exists

  • Dr. David Starch wrote Passionate Marriage, in which he says there are three psycho-sexual mindsets:

    • When you are in your own trance and concentrated on receiving your own pleasure

    • Conjoined trance – interplay and entwined in pleasure

    • Role-play, i.e. fantasies, dirty-talk, etc.

      • “All the creativity you ever need you have within you right now”

  • Somatic therapy – when the therapist does hands-on therapy to involve the body in the healing process when dealing with trauma

    • Somatic Experience Technique – therapists who are experienced and certified in sexual healing release techniques

  • Everyone responds to trauma differently

    • Our partners are often our greatest healers

    • The masculine and feminine need differing things sexually, and differing cycles.  The masculine cycle is 24 hours, the feminine cycle is typically 28 days of ebbs and flows.  “Revive Her Drive” is a program written for men who are interested in helping their female partners heal from sexual trauma.  Relaxation is foundational to arousal, and relaxation looks different for men rather than women.

    • Often it is a lack of nitric oxide that prevents adequate blood flow and arousal in the female anatomy.

    • The G-spot holds trauma/emotions for women, the prostate gland holds trauma/emotions for men.  Having these areas properly stimulated can release deeply held traumas (not to mention achieving immense pleasure.)

    • There are 15 different kinds of male and female orgasms

    • Introduce the SoulMate Embrace as a foundation to your relationship  

    • Remember - soul mates are co-created

  • Also remember – healing can come through pleasure!

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Rewriting Your Libido Story

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